Nanny’s Guide to First 30 Days: Becoming Part of the Family

Starting a new job as a nanny is exciting but can feel a bit overwhelming, especially when you’re working closely with a family in their home. Building trust and becoming part of the family during the first 30 days is key to creating a strong, lasting relationship. Here’s how to get off on the right foot during that crucial first month.

1. Open Communication from Day One

During the first 30 days, establishing clear and consistent communication with the family is vital. Be proactive in asking questions about routines, expectations, and any changes in schedules. This shows initiative and helps prevent misunderstandings. It’s also important to have weekly check-ins to discuss how things are going. A regular time to chat gives everyone the chance to talk openly and ensures that any issues are addressed early, fostering a sense of teamwork and trust.

2. Learn and Adapt to Their Routine

First and foremost, be punctual and communicate immediately if you’re ever running late for any reason.  This will not only help build trust with the family, but also ensures scheduled plans are not disrupted.

Every family operates differently. Take time to observe how things work—what the children’s routines are, how meals are handled, and what the family's expectations are in terms of discipline or screen time. Being flexible and adaptable will show that you’re invested in fitting into their lifestyle rather than imposing your own.

3. Build Rapport with the Children

Building a bond with the children is naturally your first priority. Try to engage with them through activities they enjoy and be present. Children will warm up to you faster if they feel you’re truly interested in them. Make an effort to have age-appropriate conversations with the children and really listen and take interest in what they have to say. This connection can also create a more natural integration with the rest of the family, as parents appreciate seeing their children happy and well-cared for.

4. Respect Family Dynamics

Every household has its own rhythm, and understanding the family’s values, rules, and dynamics is essential. It’s important to remain professional, but also show warmth and empathy. Respecting the parents’ authority and decisions will help build trust while creating a balanced relationship where your voice and input as a caregiver are also valued.

5. Be Yourself, But Also Be Professional

Being authentic and showing your personality is important for developing a comfortable relationship with the family, but it’s equally important to maintain professional boundaries. In the first 30 days, focus on getting to know the family dynamic without overstepping. Over time, your role may evolve into a more relaxed, integrated one, but starting with professionalism is always a good foundation.

By approaching your role with open communication, adaptability, and a genuine desire to be part of the family’s team, you can set yourself up for a rewarding relationship that benefits both you and the family.